Happy Valentine's Day, But To Who?
While February 14th is quickly approaching, and men are running around like chickens with their heads cut off. They are doing everything from ordering flowers and setting dinner reservations, to buying diamonds. It’s almost like a part two to Christmas. The only difference is, it’s the women in their lives that have become the excited little kids waiting on a gift.
For the average man he’s not even excited. This ain’t even a day for him. Most men haven’t even gotten a gift since elementary school, and that’s only because the teacher made the whole class bring something. By the time you reach Junior High that’s dead. Your mama is buying cards and candy for you to bring your lil girlfriend, as she put it, and telling you not to expect anything back. Now how are we supposed to get excited about that?
Keeping it all the way 100, as little boys we’re not taught much about love. They tell us that having multiple women, and sex is what men do. With that being said, it’s no surprise that a day that is dedicated to love, is not geared towards us. Even the commercials only show us buying something for the woman in our lives. By the time we become grown men, we are conditioned to not even expect anything on Valentine’s Day. If you do get something, 9 out of 10 men already know it's going to be SEX. Now as much as we like sex, it’s kind of like us re-wrapping something you already had and giving it back to you. It might take a couple of people a minute to get that one. I think it’s important for women to know that a grown man, especially your man, also wants to feel special. The best way to get him amped up is to do as much for him as you want done for you. Treat him to a special night. Go out and purchase something for him that says “I Love You”. I’m not saying you have to get him flowers or diamonds, but imagine what would make your heart smile, and give it. The crazy part is because most of us aren’t expecting, the simplest thing will get us excited.
A motivational speaker, author, and one of the country's premier relationship and life coaches with a mission to help black people get this thing called love right. Prescribing antidotes to heal wounds of self love and romantic love, the self proclaimed Love Dr. Rob creates personalized plans for clients to help them make a healthy emotional transition